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23 Agustus 2014

Hari ini ada nikahan salah satu teman sekelas. Sebenarnya saya bukan orang yang rajin datang ke kondangan, cenderung sebaliknya. Namun, kak Manda yang pintar memberikan kami teman satu kelasnya seragam, baiklah, maka saya pun tidak punya alasan untuk tidak hadir. 

Saat teman-teman yang lain mulai sibuk mencari bahan dan tempat menjahit, saya justru tenang-tenang. Bukan karena apa-apa, tapi karena malas. Akhirnya saya pergi ke tempat langganan, dan minta tolong diuruskan semuanya sama penjahitnya. Jadilah, saya cuma membawa kain polos seragamnya, yang lain? saya percaya sama penjahit saja :D *anaknya pasrah, kalau udah kuliah pusing mikirin hal-hal lain* Jilbab pun akhirnya hanya ambil dari salah satu koleksi di lemari. 

Baiklah, begitu saja. Terima kasih untuk Aa Eka (suaminya kak Wahe) yang dengan sabar mengambil foto kami. Sayang, suami saya masih di entah berantah, jadilah saya perlu minta tolong orang lain :D

Akhir kata, semoga kak Manda setelah ini semakin bahagia :) 

Happy wedding day kakak Mandaaa :*

The Learning Myth: Why I’ll Never Tell My Son He’s Smart

My 5-year-­old son has just started reading. Every night, we lie on his bed and he reads a short book to me. Inevitably, he’ll hit a word that he has trouble with: last night the word was “gratefully.” He eventually got it after a fairly painful minute. He then said, “Dad, aren’t you glad how I struggled with that word? I think I could feel my brain growing.” I smiled: my son was now verbalizing the tell­-tale signs of a ‘growth­ mindset.’ But this wasn’t by accident. Recently, I put into practice research I had been reading about for the past few years, andI decided to praise my son not when he succeeded at things he was already good at, but when he persevered with things that he found difficult. I stressed to him that by struggling, your brain grows.Between the deep body of research on the field of learning mindsets and this personal experience with my son, I am more convinced than ever that mindsets toward learning could matter more than anything else we teach.

Researchers have known for some time that the brain is like a muscle; that the more you use it the more it grows. They’ve found that neural connections form and deepen most when we make mistakes doing difficult tasks rather than repeatedly having success with easy ones. What this means is that our intelligence is not fixed: and the best way that we can grow our intelligence is to embrace tasks where we might struggle and fail.

However, not everyone realizes this. Dr. Carol Dweck of Stanford University has been studying people’s mindsets towards learning for decades. She has found that most people adhere to one of two mindsets: fixed or growth. Fixed mindsets mistakenly believe that people are either smart or not; that intelligence is fixed by genes. People with growth mindsets correctly believe that capability and intelligence can be grown through effort, struggle and failure. Dweck found that those with a fixed mindset tended to focus their effort on tasks where they had a high likelihood of success and avoided tasks where they may have had to struggle, which limited their learning. People with a growth mindset, however, embraced challenges, and understood that tenacity and effort could change their learning outcomes. As you can imagine, this correlated with the latter group more actively pushing themselves and growing intellectually.

The good news is that mindsets can be taught; they’re malleable. What’s really fascinating is that Dweck and others have developed techniques that they call ‘growth mindset interventions’ which have shown that even small changes in communication or seemingly innocuous comments can have fairly long­-lasting implications for a person’s mindset. For instance, praising someone’s process (“I really like how you struggled with that problem”) versus praising an innate trait or talent (“You’re so clever!”) is one way to reinforce a growth ­mindset with someone. Process­ praise acknowledges the effort; talent­ praise reinforces the notion that one only succeeds (or doesn’t) based on a fixed trait. And we’ve seen this on Khan Academy as well: students are spending more time learning on Khan Academy after being exposed to messages which praise their tenacity and grit and that underscore that the brain is like a muscle.

So let’s start a global conversation that examines how we as a society can help people develop a growth mindset. The Internet is a dream for someone with a growth mindset. Between Khan Academy, MOOCs and others, there is unprecedented access to endless content to help you grow your mind. However, society isn’t going to fully take advantage of this without growth mindsets being more prevalent. So what if we actively tried to change that? What if we began using whatever means are at our disposal to start performing growth mindset interventions on everyone we cared about? This is much bigger than Khan Academy or algebra - it applies to how you communicate with your children, how you manage your team at work, how you learn a new language or instrument. If society as a whole begins to embrace the struggle of learning, there is no end to what that could mean for global human potential.

And now here’s a surprise for you. By reading this article itself, you’ve just undergone the first half of a growth­-mindset intervention. The research shows that just being exposed to the research itself ­­for example knowing that brain grows most by getting questions wrong, not right­­ can begin to change a person’s mindset. The second half of the intervention is for you to communicate the research with others. We’ve made a video (above) that celebrates the struggle of learning that will help you do this. After all, when my son, or for that matter, anyone else asks me about learning, I only want them to know one thing. As long as they embrace struggle and mistakes, they can learn anything.

Ada orang yang memberi hormat dengan mengangkat tangan, ada orang yang memberi hormat dengan berdiri tegap, ada orang yang memberi hormat dengan membungkuk, ada orang yang memberi hormat dengan sujud, ada orang yang memberi hormat dengan duduk bersimpuh di atas kedua kaki, ada orang yang memberi hormat dengan memberi salam. Dalam shalat, kita melakukan semuanya.

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"Kalau saya, saya gak akan mencari perempuan yang melengkapi saya."

"Membangun sebuah hubungan itu butuh dua orang yang solid. Yang sama-sama kuat. Bukan yang saling mengisi kelemahan."

"Karena untuk menjadi kuat, adalah tanggung jawab masing-masing orang. Bukan tanggung jawab orang lain."

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Menikah itu banyak tanggung jawabnya. Rencanakan. Rencanakan untuk kalian. Rencanakan untuk anak-anak kalian.
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